The title gives you a hint of what this post is about.
When you're single, there's no assurance that you only get to attract non-committed guys. But trust me, you could be more prone to guys who are in a relationship. But why do guys flirt with other girls even if they're committed to another girl?
1. They see something in you that they don't see from their current partners. Probably, you're more fun than his girlfriend or you're just hotter/prettier/smarter, etc. than her.
2. They have time to do so. Girlfriend's curfew is at 10pm and you're available at 10pm onwards. Or maybe the other girl is on a different work shift (day/night).
3. They're in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR). Boys will be boys, and they have needs that have to be satisfied. Just read between the lines. Or maybe they just needed company 'coz they either miss their partners or they lose interest waiting.
4. To boost their ego. I don't know why this is an issue. I mean, so what if they have lots of girls? Does it really make them look hotter in front of their friends? Well I think it's a guy thing. The more girls they have, the more confident they become.
5. They just can't be loyal. With or without a reason, guys have chances to cheat so beware. It's hard to find partners who will be honest and loyal to you. These days, it's really hard to trust 100%. Well if you really love the guy, even if he cheats on you, you try your best to understand. But everything has a threshold or limitation.
At the end of the day, you should know your worth. You know what you have to offer and you know what you deserve. Being a third party (flirting with a committed guy is counted) doesn't do any good. Well maybe you just enjoy the company of the guy, or you just treat him as a friend, but make sure that you don't cross the line or you'll just get yourself in trouble. Even if it has come to a point that you have already liked, or even have fallen in love with that guy who's committed to someone else, you should stop yourself from doing so. I know it's hard but you gotta find a way to fight that feeling.
Just refer to your conscience. Would you really choose to be with someone who's been cheating with this partner? What if you end up with this guy, how sure are you that he wouldn't do the same to you? That guy is cheating with his girlfriend. You should show concern to his girlfriend who's being fooled 'cause you're a girl too.
And how are you sure that by accommodating that guy, he'll choose you over his girlfriend/partner in the end? This happens very rare. When a guy breaks up with his girlfriend, he doesn't end up with the one he's flirting. Oftentimes, he chooses to be single for quite some time, and finds another girl he'll be committed to next; and unfortunately, that isn't you. Some run back to their EXes. But I don't think they choose to end up with someone they used to flirt with.
Don't be a home wrecker. We've learned a lot of that from "No Other Woman", "A Secret Affair", and "The Mistress". Let's just leave it to the movies and not bring it to reality. Keep LOVE sacred and maintain your high value. You don't really have to work so hard for love because if it's really for you, then love will find its way.
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